Masturbation, a topic that’s mostly seen in a taboo sense can easily be misunderstood. But, despite all of the negative things associated with it, masturbation actually has some pretty profound effects on both the mind and body.
Learn about some of the effects of self masturbation on the mind and how it can help you deal with your anger and emotional imbalance.
There are many misconceptions when it comes to masturbation. Some popular myths about masturbation include:
- It can lead to blindness.
- It causes premature aging of the body.
- I will get an STD.
- It will make me lose hair.
In contrast to many myths about it, the science behind it has actually shown that masturbation is good for us and that it causes none of the things I just mentioned. Of course, there are some exceptions to this.
Masturbating with another person or using a sex toy that hasn’t been properly sterilized could potentially pass on an STD/STI if your partner’s bodily fluids comes into contact with your genitalia.
Another common myth is that women don’t masturbate. This misinformation has lead the topic of female masturbation to become even more of a taboo than male masturbation already is.
Where this myth came from, I have absolutely no clue. My best guess is that it came out of the social stereotype that women are generally more reserved than men and less “dirty minded”.
Regardless of where it came from, masturbation shouldn’t be seen as a “dirty topic”.
Yes, people of all genders masturbate. Susan Quilliam found in her research, (published in the book Women on Sex) that 4 out of 5 women masturbate regularly (1). In a 2016 US study by Indiana University, 3 out of 4 women aged 25–29, and 1 in 2 girls aged 14–17 said they had masturbated (2).Masturbation: common questions and misconceptions – by Jen Bell | Clue
The truth about masturbation
Masturbation is acknowledged as a good practice when done properly and in the right intervals. Masturbation allows you to better understand your body.
Here are some notable benefits of masturbation:
- Allows you to explore your body’s limitations and what you might like or dislike.
- Releases endorphins which helps to relieve stress and pain while increasing overall “happiness“.
- Improves the quality of your sleep as the brain releases a myriad of chemicals to make you feel better when you orgasm (including endorphins).
- It’s a great way to relieve your anger that doesn’t cost you anything.
- Masturbation may also help to reduce the risk of prostate cancer.
As with everything, too much masturbation isn’t very good for you. From first hand experience, I can say that there is definitely a limit to how many orgasms your body can comfortably have in a day. Any more than whatever your limit is just feels like your very life is being sucked away from you.
In some people, excessive masturbation can cause their hormones become imbalanced as the body is forcibly expelling a lot of bodily fluids in a very short time frame. When I was going through puberty, I was masturbating way too much and this caused my body to just get wrecked.
Too much masturbation can also contribute towards the degradation of nerves that are part of the ejaculation process. After all, masturbation is technically a form of physical exercise as it engages different muscles in the body like the pelvic floor.
The right age to masturbate
No one size really fits all so it’s impossible for us to determine when someone should be masturbating based on age.
We all develop at different rates so we’ll each have our own different milestones. As long as you have an inkling of sex drive, you can masturbate. Some people even start masturbating well before they turn 10 years old.
Children 5-9 years of ageSexual behaviour in children and young people | KidsHealth
Children in this age group may:
-start to want privacy when going to the toilet or showering
-masturbate in private
-show curiosity about sexuality (for example, ask questions about babies, gender and relationships)
Even seniors over the age of 80 continue to masturbate regularly. The “right” time really just depends on you.
Does masturbating make me a bad person?
In short, the answer to this question is no.
Masturbation does not make you a bad person. It’s a completely natural part of our sexuality and isn’t something you should be ashamed of.
I think that the reason many people feel weird talking about masturbating is because of the way our societies have developed. We’ve become accustomed to see things that are attached with any kind of sex (including masturbation) as something that’s taboo and not “good for us”.
Maybe it’s because of the lack of proper sexual education or just the fact that parents generally don’t want to talk to their kids about sex openly. In all of the sex-ed classes I’ve had in school, never did I learn anything about masturbation.
Should I be masturbating while I’m in a relationship?
I certainly don’t see why you shouldn’t be masturbating when you’re in a relationship. Masturbating to the thought of your partner can definitely help to make you feel more intimate with them.
Many people feel that masturbation allows them to understand exactly what they like and dislike when it comes to sex. This information becomes very valuable for your partner so that they know exactly how to make you feel good.
In fact, two 2009 studies found that vibrator use among women and men has been linked to an increase in desire, arousal, and overall sexual function. Women also reported an increase in lubrication, while men reported better erectile function, according to the studies.Masturbation Effects on Your Health: Side Effects and Benefits – Annamarya Scaccia | healthline
What do you think about masturbating? Let me know in the comments below.